tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3644717516426101893.post1207315336120658408..comments2024-03-22T15:37:29.563-04:00Comments on jersey girl looks up: resetting boundaries if you are as thin-skinned as me - part IIICatherine Ivinshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01642469475264570967noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3644717516426101893.post-1359118358684925122014-02-03T10:12:14.138-05:002014-02-03T10:12:14.138-05:00I read that monkey article, too- probably in the 9...I read that monkey article, too- probably in the 90's or late 80's - my manager's manager gave it to me, even then I had monkeys ... progress, yes - George has been sick (still working of course- he's covered with monkeys) and I have been sleeping in the extra room, washing my hands 20 times a day and sucking down vitamins, but this morning it all caught up with me - and I'm behind with work. Every year I say I sell very few lockets for VDay - you would think locket/VDay goes together, but never for me - this year I'm overrun and now sick and it's snowing which means I have to decide between shoveling out car and driveway to get to the shop to weld or going back to bed ... I guess since it's the year of us and VDay is still over a week away I should go to bed ...Catherine Ivinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01642469475264570967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3644717516426101893.post-41185139158102367152014-02-03T10:01:37.525-05:002014-02-03T10:01:37.525-05:00Ahhhh, excellent way to turn the problem back to t...Ahhhh, excellent way to turn the problem back to the kind giver. I once read an article about keeping the monkey off your back and this is exactly how it's done. I wish I had kept a copy of it (before the Age of Google in the Land of Internet) but trust me, you didn't even let that monkey rest. Perfect. My problem is - as if there were only one - after I shrug the monkey off my back, I still want to tickle him once in a while and I can end up getting attached. Progress. Slow progress.<br /><br />Post Super Bowl Sickness?lynn boweshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05786375395402917408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3644717516426101893.post-7393738038522497962014-02-03T09:12:31.464-05:002014-02-03T09:12:31.464-05:00The year of Ed and Lynn - I love it Lynn! I am fli...The year of Ed and Lynn - I love it Lynn! I am flipping the old treat others as we'd like to be treated into treat myself the way I treat others .. yesterday someone was telling me about a problem and in the past I would have jumped into the mess with solutions, but instead I just said 'what are you going to do?', she was totally confused that I didn't offer up anything other than a glass of water ... and ... when she left, I didn't think about it again. The world didn't collapse - oh course I woke up sick today, no doubt a shock to my central nervous system ...Catherine Ivinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01642469475264570967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3644717516426101893.post-4570850686668511882014-02-03T08:51:36.561-05:002014-02-03T08:51:36.561-05:00Did I tell you that this year I am having NO tatto...Did I tell you that this year I am having NO tattooed on my palm so that the next time someone asks for a volunteer and I raise my hand, the answer will be there? Okay, probably not but the intent is there after that killer 2013. <br /><br />You know, we just can't be expected to do everything and not be affected by criticism, to let things seep through our thin skin. Those expectations are usually from within and much of the criticism is self-imposed - at least that's my experience. So saying NO and committing to less gives peace and calm and allows open-ness. Boundaries are hard but necessary. It's the resetting of boundaries that confuse everyone on the outside.<br /><br />I know the Chinese think this is the Year of the Horse but I have already declared this to be the Year of Ed and Lynn. First dibs.<br /><br />xolynn boweshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05786375395402917408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3644717516426101893.post-750509021961759272014-02-02T17:23:14.587-05:002014-02-02T17:23:14.587-05:00Discerning is one of my favorite words - and yes, ...Discerning is one of my favorite words - and yes, please keep that broken heart open my friend .... what a challenging lesson, so many gifts if you can manage it you won't need that winning ticket ... although I still think the ticket is possible. I need more inspiring art, too - especially wall art- I had a horrific sunflower painting in the stairway for years that my sister had abandoned with me when she moved across the counrty - I finally gave up trying to fill it and just hang our bikes there.Catherine Ivinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01642469475264570967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3644717516426101893.post-57440481371784623852014-02-02T16:01:09.480-05:002014-02-02T16:01:09.480-05:00I like No as a complete sentence.
I told my mom t...I like No as a complete sentence.<br /><br />I told my mom this past Christmas that I did not need anything. I have enough stuff. (And yes, I am talking about the external stuff of everyday life.) Then I went stopped by the Museum of Art and Design in Manhattan two weeks ago and came to the conclusion that I do not have enough art and beautiful things. <br /><br />With both kinds of clutter we need to be discerning. The hardest lesson of my life, and I am still learning, is to keep my broken heart open to all the many opportunities for love that surround me.KJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02839682837427981888noreply@blogger.com