tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3644717516426101893.post8287990025469271486..comments2024-03-22T15:37:29.563-04:00Comments on jersey girl looks up: Part l (continued) - how compassion can unleash our passionCatherine Ivinshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01642469475264570967noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3644717516426101893.post-23709957524239651762012-10-18T15:11:46.422-04:002012-10-18T15:11:46.422-04:00Lately I've been connecting with purpose, asid...Lately I've been connecting with purpose, aside from passion... so I get this. And good for you, for finding strength in your situation too. ♥DancingMooneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12158390199317580345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3644717516426101893.post-31501009645063131742012-10-17T15:39:10.221-04:002012-10-17T15:39:10.221-04:00Wonderful comment Kathy- thank you so much for sha...Wonderful comment Kathy- thank you so much for sharing it xo<br /><br />"Dealing with angry people has taught me that their anger is not my burden to bear past that moment. I do not have to take their anger home nor do I need to take it into the next hour. I have found the balance that works for me." I especially love this ...<br /><br />I like your definition of judging, too- I have found that being in the place of not seeing things as good or as bad (I am thinking of that story about the man and the mule/ then son goes to war/etc if you know that one) but just as they are, gets me into the zone where I can be happier with what <i>is</i>rather than needing something to happen or someone to be a certain way for me to feel happy or satisfied - I had no idea how much power I gave away to the situation before I learned this - of course, it's a process ... sigh ... Catherine Ivinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01642469475264570967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3644717516426101893.post-5589210449723977312012-10-17T13:35:19.780-04:002012-10-17T13:35:19.780-04:00Thank you for the breathing lessons.
I think the ...Thank you for the breathing lessons.<br /><br />I think the word compassion is drawing me a bit off topic, nonetheless, I will share my thoughts.<br /><br />I have worked for many many years with populations similar to David. I have learned, not compassion as you define it because I do judge- I once read, and continue to believe, that judging is the process through which we communicate our expectations to the community surrounding us. My judgments never kept me from empathy or from offering what I could.<br /><br />I continue to work with those in need. I have the opportunity to speak with those in desperate need, and I do all that I can. I speak to those who demand without any awareness of what it is to give, I give them almost as much as those in desperate need; perhaps they might someday overcome their handicap. I often speak with those who cannot in anyway acknowledge me because their anger gets in the way. I always give to the angry person the best I am able, having learned that their anger does not negate their need or my professionalism. <br /><br />Dealing with angry people has taught me that their anger is not my burden to bear past that moment. I do not have to take their anger home nor do I need to take it into the next hour. I have found the balance that works for me. <br /><br />Of course this is much easier in a professional setting than it is in a family setting where the expectations are so much higher and family will always be family. As they often say in the south: bless their hearts.KJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02839682837427981888noreply@blogger.com